I can’t believe it is August already! This is the time of year when I start to organize. I’m moving into action mode. I am planning for the successful launch of my brand new Achieve Your Goals 12-Session Manifesting Bootcamp. This is a group designed for innovative and motivated women to join me as we activate, accelerate and achieve our goals.

Research has repeatedly demonstrated that a crucial element in catalyzing rapid personal progress and growth lies in the presence of robust accountability supports. According to studies, individuals who possess such a support system have an astounding 85% probability (or more ) of realizing their desired outcomes.  Not surprisingly, this figure aligns closely with the overwhelming success rate experienced by 85% of my own clients. They have already triumphed in reaching their goals.

I meet so many bright, beautiful and articulate women every day. Yet, they all share a surprising propensity. Each of them is experiencing resistant to change! Armed with this knowledge, you might be asking yourself; what might be hindering my own path to achieving my goals and bringing my vision of success to life?

It can be tempting to see resistance to change as an obstacle. However, I have chosen to research and understand why people might naturally be resistant to change. And, I intend to address these factors from the onset.

We cannot just assume that resistance to change is necessarily about opposition to the end goal. Often what we want isn’t the issue.  Frequently our resistance is simply about the process of getting to our goal. Once we get there, everything will be great.

Resistance to change is actually very normal.  It stems from how our brains are hardwired (the neuronal reasons), and from our psychological needs. Our sociological and physical needs also contribute to resistance. Sometimes, even when the goal sounds perfect, we get worried about the practical effect a successful change might have on us. Will we have to lose weight or find a different friend group? Will we still have time for the children or our partners, if our dreams come true?

Understanding these factors is essential because it allows leaders and change agents to address resistance. Why? In order to support our clients as they make the leap to empowerment, healing and transformation!

Now that we know resistance is a totally natural reaction to the prospect of change, let’s delve deeper into the factors that contribute to this complicated state of being.

Neuronal Needs:

As a student of neuroscience I know our brains are wired to seek familiarity and efficiency. Change disrupts existing neural pathways, and our brains perceive this as a threat to our stability. After all, our familiar routines and habits require very little cognitive effort. While change demands adaptation and learning.  We all know that learning can be mentally taxing.

Psychological Needs:

Then there are the psychological factors. As humans, we have a fundamental need for autonomy, and a sense of control over their lives. Change can trigger feelings of uncertainty and powerlessness. This opens the door to resistance as individuals fear giving up or losing everything they have worked for.

Sociological Needs:

From a purely sociological perspective, we are social beings. Our sense of identity and belonging is often tied to the groups we are a part of. We each fear that change may be perceived as a threat to group cohesion and that this will lead to resistance if our success is perceived as a challenge to the established family and/or group dynamics.

Physical Needs:

There is a physical fear to change as well. We all have the need to feel  secure and comfortable. Sometimes, the idea of change might present a practical risk (real or perceived) to any individual. Will my new job be secure? Will my friends agree with and support my decisions and my growth?

In closing, I choose to quote Eliezer Yudkowsky a young artificial intelligence researcher from the U.S. who reminds us that “Not all changes lead to improvement, but all improvement requires change.”

It’s important to remember that when we aspire to grow, some level of resistance is inevitable. But by addressing the factors we discussed above and by accessing empathy and understanding, from a supportive group of like-minded women, we can absolutely navigate through change more effectively and become open and excited by our own adaptation and innovation.

If you would like to hear more about my newest and most innovative Achieve Your Goals 12 Session Manifesting Bootcamp, so that you can improve your performance, your sense of well-being, and the quality of your relationships, please call or use the link below to book a 30 minute phone call.

Simone Usselman-Tod,

Stress Management and Mindset Breakthrough Coach,

Certified NeuroChange and NLP Master Practitioner and Coach.


It’s time to invest in yourself and in your dreams. Resist no longer!